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Boundaries during the holiday season
Its that time of year again, New Hallothanksmas, aka Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New years. Although for many this time of year is exciting and an opportunity to live out past times and traditions with people you love. For man, this span of 3 ½ months is has an extra layer of tension. Questions like “Will my in-laws speak negatively of me if we decide to stay home this year for Christmas?” or “What if I can’t afford to get everyone that matters to me a gift and have to prioritize...” begin to swirl around in our minds, effectively taking away the peace that we should rightfully own this time of year.
How to support someone through grief (do’s & don’ts)
Grief is defined as deep sorrow. Many associate grief to death, but this can be any loss. A breakup, a season of life changing, even in conjunction with happy times such as getting married, but leaving our childhood hometown, or having a baby, but knowing you will miss your life before children. Grief is relative and comes and goes in our lives at various points in time. We will go through many waves of grief, as well as those around us throughout our lifetime.
What to do when your spouse doesn’t want therapy
When things aren’t going well in your relationship, it’s already a very isolating and lonely feeling. If your spouse or partner isn’t willing or committed to try counseling, it can feel even more lonely and frustrating.
While you obviously cannot control and should not manipulate your partner into therapy, there are sometimes a few suggestions that may help.
Fear of letting go
“The things that bring us into therapy and what we want to heal from are the very things we subconsciously try to hold onto. Fearing wellness is, in my experience, one of if not the most pernicious barriers to healing.”
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What makes a good therapy session?
Spoiler Alert: it’s not just a ‘good therapist.’
Whether you’re new to the therapeutic process or not, knowing how to utilize and evaluate your therapy sessions is very worthwhile knowledge. You and your therapist are both bringing different things to the table and investing into your time together, so you ought to know what to look for and how you can make the most of each session. Just like in any other profession, there are good therapists and poor ones, creative ones and lazy ones, good fits and bad fits. The same goes for clients! Some are actually willing to do the work and will see change as a result, while others just want to talk once a week and stay trapped in their comfort zones.
Why “Trying Harder” Doesn’t Work
“So I'm using the word infrastructure to make the point that if you have NEVER had a successful conversation with your partner where you felt heard, got your point across to where it was at least accepted if not agreed with, and did the same for your partner, then you have not actually been having a dialogue at all. You have been having two separate monologues and expecting the impossible…”
How to know if you’re making progress in therapy?
Whether you’re heading into your first therapy session or you’ve been in counseling for years, it’s important to have an awareness of if it’s actually WORKING. Are you able to pinpoint ways that you have actually grown or changed? What can you do today that you couldn’t do a year ago?
The way in which you and your therapist establish landmarks in your treatment plan can make or break your overall experience and motivation.
