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What to do when your spouse doesn’t want therapy
Mental Health, Couples Dave Kemerer Mental Health, Couples Dave Kemerer

What to do when your spouse doesn’t want therapy

When things aren’t going well in your relationship, it’s already a very isolating and lonely feeling. If your spouse or partner isn’t willing or committed to try counseling, it can feel even more lonely and frustrating.


While you obviously cannot control and should not manipulate your partner into therapy, there are sometimes a few suggestions that may help.

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What makes a good therapy session?
Mental Health, Couples, Self Care Dave Kemerer Mental Health, Couples, Self Care Dave Kemerer

What makes a good therapy session?

Spoiler Alert: it’s not just a ‘good therapist.’
Whether you’re new to the therapeutic process or not, knowing how to utilize and evaluate your therapy sessions is very worthwhile knowledge. You and your therapist are both bringing different things to the table and investing into your time together, so you ought to know what to look for and how you can make the most of each session. Just like in any other profession, there are good therapists and poor ones, creative ones and lazy ones, good fits and bad fits. The same goes for clients! Some are actually willing to do the work and will see change as a result, while others just want to talk once a week and stay trapped in their comfort zones.

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Why “Trying Harder” Doesn’t Work
Couples, Mental Health Dave Kemerer Couples, Mental Health Dave Kemerer

Why “Trying Harder” Doesn’t Work

“So I'm using the word infrastructure to make the point that if you have NEVER had a successful conversation with your partner where you felt heard, got your point across to where it was at least accepted if not agreed with, and did the same for your partner, then you have not actually been having a dialogue at all. You have been having two separate monologues and expecting the impossible…”

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How to know if you’re making progress in therapy?
Mental Health, Self Care Nicoletta Whiteman Mental Health, Self Care Nicoletta Whiteman

How to know if you’re making progress in therapy?

Whether you’re heading into your first therapy session or you’ve been in counseling for years, it’s important to have an awareness of if it’s actually WORKING. Are you able to pinpoint ways that you have actually grown or changed? What can you do today that you couldn’t do a year ago?
The way in which you and your therapist establish landmarks in your treatment plan can make or break your overall experience and motivation.

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Help for grieving
Mental Health, Self Care Rosslyn Kemerer Mental Health, Self Care Rosslyn Kemerer

Help for grieving

I’m relatively new to big losses and understanding the journey of grief, but each time I experience it, I learn a little something. If you or someone you know is experiencing grief and loss, you might benefit from receiving or offering some of these suggestions and recognizing what NOT to do as well.

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